When I was seventeen this shit didn't matter.
Now I'm fucking sixty (60) and my wife of the last 30 odd years has just lost her fight with Melonoma.
Fuck it I am so fuckingh pissed off (and so pissed) even a few calls to a few good mates could't get me thru this . Im fucked....
Waricle,
Very sorry to hear this. I don't know your pain, but do know I'd be lost without my wife of 30 years also.
If you need a friendly ear, or a change of scenery just give me a call. 0419 034 225
Arnie
likewise waricle. very sorry to hear of your loss words cant do justice. change of scenery an excuse to drink whatever you need if i can help in anyway just holler, whisper or tap on my window.
Peace & Love
Very sorry for your loss...
One of our family is going through a fight with this damned disease right now.
I hope you can find peace.
Randy T
Indy
Ah, man.... Sorry to hear.
Waricle,
I know we joke about our wives, but we all know they are the center of our world. I've been with mine for half my life as well, and cannnot imagine the depth of pain that would come with a loss like yours. The group is here for ya, lay it on us and we'll listen. Or if you just want to talk about anything but, shit, that's why this forum is here! Thinking about you man,
Doug
Waricle,
I am sorry for your loss, you go ahead and be mad, keep your friends close, you're gonna need them.
God Speed.
As other have already said; We will be here to help in anyway possible.
Randy
You are in the thoughts and prayers of both my wife and I. Let us know if there is anything we can do to help! As has been said - if you just need to vent, ramble, etc...please do so!
Just know that you are in the thoughts of A LOT of global FJers right now...hang in there brother!
I am so sorry to hear of your loss Peter, although I only meet Helen for a very short amount of time she was certainly a lovely lady with a great attitude and strength .
Please take care Peter and if you are ever in Tassie make sure you come and visit or if you feel the need to get away for a bit you are more than welcome to come and stay here.
Colin.
Pete, I only met you and Helen the one time, but thru this group we (and I mean we as a group) have come to know you.
So sorry to hear that you have lost your beloved partner.
If I can be of assistance in any way, give a shout mate, and don't forget I'm just up the road a ways!
Thoughts are with you mate!
Harvy
Sorry to hear about your loss. You're among friends here, and as others have said we're here to help if you need.
Waricle....our thoughts and prayers are with you . I cannot imagine what you are going through, but keep the faith man..
Cheers..Jake
It's morning and I'm regretting that second bottle of wine.
Thank you all for your kind words, they are appreciated.
I realise I'm not the only person out there with problems and sympathise with you.
Thanks again.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
And if I can help..
Richard
Bummer. Stay positive.
Thoughts and prays with you Brother. I can't imagine.
Been with my wife for over 30 too. Can't imagine your pain. I'd like to think that you will soon enjoy fun memories of her with friends and family as you create a new and enjoyable life with her in your heart.
Take care,
Mike
just another one from the FJ family with a heavy heart for you.
Waricle, I'm sorry to hear about your wife. I couldn't imagine what I be like if I lost my wife. You're in a tough spot, but it will get better. Lean on family & friends, even us biker scum here. Don't be a hermit! Get out, live, laugh, love. It will be hard, but do it. You'll be better off than if you stay home & sulk.
Hang in there, brother.
Oh Man sorry for the loss of your wife. I have battled Melanoma twice in my life to. Its a prick of a disease
and kills more people in NZ than road fatalities. Im not going to do the cliche thing and say it gets easier
with time, coz it dosent. Because our wives and partners are a huge part of our lives. And when they arent
there its shear hell. but I guess acceptance comes along at some time.
Take care my friend.
Perry and Sara
I'm sorry to hear of your loss Waricle.
May you be surrounded by good friends to help share the load
and I hope you find some peace, soon.
Sorry Man. May the memories of the good soon overwhelm your grief!
Dan
Thank you all for your support.
I've just arrived home after a two-week break.
I decided I had to get the hell out of Dodge before I had to face those awful details that needed attention.
Loaded up the windsurfers and some golf clubs and took off down south to visit friends, go sailing and play
some golf.
A good trip though happy/sad at times.
Friends are lifesavers, where would we be without them?
Had some company for the trip back home which made it easier that coming home alone to an empty house.
Picked up my Joe Rocket perforated leather pants today from the Post Office.
Tried the pants on, looked out the window, saw it was raining and took them off.
Tomorrow....
Waricle,
Very good to hear from you. Been wondering after your whereabouts and well being lately, I'm glad you were appreciating the good. I hear ya on the rain, at least it wasn't the snow here yesterday morning, still went for a ride though in the evening. Gotta do what ya gotta do.
Doug
Having just lost my favorite uncle (the one who first turned me onto motorcycles) i can relate to the mindset of losing a loved one.... as bad as it hurts to lose an uncle i cannot begin to understand what it must be like to have lost a long term partner like you have.
my thoughts and prayers go out for you during your time of grief.
i like to think that we move onto a better place after this life is done and at some point we will all meet again on the other side.
i know some dont believe this is the way it is but if a catapillar can turn into a beautiful butterfly then anything is possible.
who needs warp speed when we will be able to travel at the speed of thought!.... the ultimate Kookaloo!
remember we are all here for ya brother!
Take care and as T Roy likes to say... Peace N love
Waricle,
I have been reading the posts and your replies on your loss and life changing event. I never know what to say at time like this so I mostly just stay in background, but I felt the need to reach out. I had lost my father three years ago and even after that short amount time I have kind of blanked it out. You chose to share with us and I felt compelled to read every post. I now remember some very happy moments that shaped my life. He took me on my first motorcycle ride when I was about 5 (bungee corded in front of him) on his Kawasaki 500 triple. After a few passes up and down the block I said I wanted to go faster. He went faster, he wheelied up and then back down the street and asked me it that was fast enough. Totally shocked, my response was that I wanted to go fast.....But NOT THAT FAST!!!!! (My first Kookalooo moment, and not my last). I don't express this for attention to my story, just how I can relate and how your sharing was a good thing for me. Thanks.
I hope you find the comfort and joy in remembering the good parts. The pain is still there, and I feel with you in a kindred way. You have a spare room any time you want to visit sunny Southern California and ride the twisty roads here.
Oh shit, it's Friday night April 23rd, and I just came across this post. It fills me with fear.
I can not even imagine living without my Jannie....I do not want to go there, yet...
waricle (I don't know your name) if you wish to get away, please come over for a visit. Come to our WCR.
We will get a FJ for you to ride. Just fly into Palm Springs, CA. or Ontario, CA. or LAX. with your toothbrush and riding gear and we will handle the rest. Have you met Klavdy yet? He will be here for the WCR.
I'm so sorry for the late reply.
Sending good thoughts your way...
Pat
Belated prayers and condolences for you and your family.
Once again, thank you all for for words of support.
Helen's sister and a couple of Helen's rowdy mates came over yesterday and sorted Helen's clothing for charity.
So many shoes, so little time...
Went for a great ride the other day, perfect conditions and a winding deserted hilly bitumen road.
Mainly second and third gear stuff.
My 15 year-old grandson Jamie observed "There's a lot of disc-brake dust on your front wheel Pa!"
I replied "Kookaloo"
Quote from: waricle on May 01, 2010, 06:54:17 AM
Once again, thank you all for for words of support.
Helen's sister and a couple of Helen's rowdy mates came over yesterday and sorted Helen's clothing for charity.
So many shoes, so little time...
Went for a great ride the other day, perfect conditions and a winding deserted hilly bitumen road.
Mainly second and third gear stuff.
My 15 year-old grandson Jamie observed "There's a lot of disc-brake dust on your front wheel Pa!"
I replied "Kookaloo"
now you're talking.... i always find the kookaloo to be very helpful in keeping the mind clear and focused.
.....still holding you up in my thoughts and prayers brother!
Hang in there.
Frank
Quote from: waricle on May 01, 2010, 06:54:17 AM
Went for a great ride the other day, perfect conditions and a winding deserted hilly bitumen road.
Mainly second and third gear stuff.
My 15 year-old grandson Jamie observed "There's a lot of disc-brake dust on your front wheel Pa!"
I replied "Kookaloo"
Not so fucked I'm thinking my friend.... :yes: If you've got a 15yr old grandson and you're still out in 2nd and 3rd in twisty stuff then it's still all good :-) I'm hoping I'm still able to kookaloo the FJ when I'm a Grandad.. Nice one :good2:
Thanks Guys,
I'm learning to count my blessings!